Am I Done Being a Life Coach?

Since October I have been questioning my business.

I felt so on top of my game up until that point.

At the beginning of October, I had been asked to hold a booth at a wellness event, started my monthly journaling pop-ups, and I had been asked to speak at a leadership conference in Arizona at the end of the month.

I was feeling like this was me leveling up in the coaching world.

At the end of the leadership conference, I let the guy who invited me there, get inside my head.

He told me I needed to get more specific in my coaching. "Niche down” if you will. He said I “had the right idea” but needed him as a coach, so I could do better.

After one weekend, 16 hours to be exact, he thought he knew me. He spent the weekend coaching others and speaking on his brand, barely interacting with me. At the end of the weekend, I spoke on stage with a few other people answering questions on what it is to be a leader, how to inspire others, and what I have done with my accomplishments.

Nowhere in there was struggle, misinformation, or the idea where my business was.

He didn't know me, but had the audacity to hit a weak point of mine.

It has taken me months to talk about this, because I was so hurt. So many things have run through my head:

Am I ready to throw it all away?

Do I even know what I am doing?

You don’t belong in the coaching world.

Who am I compared to these multi-million dollar coaches?

Am I missing results after all my hard work?

Is part time not enough?

The fact of the matter was, I never had a specific niche down target group of people because I wanted to help everyone.

And yes, every marketing guru will tell you that it isn’t smart. It’s a waste of time. Someone needs to be felt like they are being talked to.

However, the people I helped were of different ages, different points in their life, different goals they had, different skills and interests. They all came for different things but went through the same process- always successful at that.

I went quiet after that comment. Reeling in any idea of how to connect all my clients:

A young man who wanted to balance his job, college, and start reaching his goals of writing scripts and doing YouTube reviews.

A woman going through a breakup wanting to reclaim her life and her home after her ex tore through it all.

Another gal who came for ideas on how to balance a second part time job but opened her own business instead.

And more…

They were all dream-driven individuals who wanted to accomplish a goal. Being held by fear, feeling of no control, lack of awareness of habits. Completely transformed at the end of my 12-week program.

I couldn't figure out how to niche down. It made no sense looking at the list of differences in my clients.

He got it in my head that after how long I had been in this business, I should be a lot farther.

He doesn’t know I took almost a year off after having both babies, summers to enjoy myself, and whatever else I wanted AND my clients were still there waiting to join my program again. Adding all that time up, I was in this “coaching realm” for a lot less than it actually seems.

When I add it together my success rate is more than he was giving me credit for.

I was just there to be lied to in order to buy what he was selling.

The other reason this felt like such a weak point was,

because at this time, Bodhi started expressing out of control behavior that wasn’t him. I started feeling like I needed to step away from my business so I could spend more time with him.

I thought maybe this was a sign I wasn’t in the right space.

I went from feeling on top of the world, leveling up, being right where I needed to be, to face planting on the cement. I was hurt, withdrawn, and most certainly confused.

It’s taken me time to get right with my thoughts.

It’s taken me time to figure out where I need to be and what to do.

And it’s taken me time to admit my embarrassment of what happened.

I will never quit being a coach. It’s innately who I am as a person. I know I am destined to help others.

I will however, focus more on my second passion which is writing. I will sharpen my 12-week course once again. Keep making videos on Instagram, because I have fun with it. And take on 1:1’s when I am feeling ready.

Because I know, there will always be big dreamers who are done making excuses, ready to take control, and make changes to their habits- even if that is not specific enough.