Why Is It Hard to Be Proud of Yourself?
Being proud has turned into being conceded, full of yourself, and a bit much.
But why?
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Mostly because I have been extremely proud of myself and felt weird to say it, but also because of some people shredding Timothee Chalemet’s acceptance speech at the SAG awards.
He was accepting an award for his performance as Bob Dylan in a biopic. I have yet to see the film, but heard wonderful things. I was truly impressed that he sang all the music live in the movie as they filmed, instead of the traditional form of pre-recording and lip-syncing.
When I saw him accepting his reward, I did not see or hear anything I didn’t agree with. If I put that much hard work into a film, for five plus years, damn straight I’d be thanking myself and acknowledging all that I did.
The internet trolls do not like pride.
They tore him apart saying he was too young to be that proud of himself, that someone needs to humble him, that it isn’t that serious, anyone could have done it, etc.
However, no one else did do it. No one else got the roll but him. Nor would they have done it the way he did. Timothee was unique and made sure to get it 100% correct. An art form that is missing from day to day life.
If someone is “mad” about your pride or success, it’s them not you.
You need to know that what everyone else is saying negatively about you, is their own regrets, jealousy, and shame.
If they are trying to tear you down, it’s because you are a mirror to them. They have to look inward to discover what success they have been keeping themselves from. They will discover they have wasted time, potential, belief, and energy. The negativity makes them feel better.
Being negative is like swearing, it makes you feel good momentarily. Putting someone down makes you stand above and that status, when you are feeling inferior, is important.
But, what if you are the angry-jealous person?
You have to find out your reasoning. Ask yourself:
What is it that they have that you keep convincing yourself you are not entitled to?
What life-circumstances have you blamed prevented you from your goals?
Why are you afraid of hard work?
Where are your excuses lying?
How can you change your day to day to get it?
List five things you are proud that person has accomplished.
Observe their roadmap and construct your own.
So, why is it hard to be proud of yourself?
It isn’t. It’s everyone else who makes you feel shameful for it.
Be proud. Yell it from the roof tops. Brag about it.
Be humble, but still tell everyone what you have accomplished.
And if you are having a hard time being proud and are choosing negativity, accept your mistakes up until this point and use your anger to fuel your next journey towards greatness.
